Join Dan Holmes (husband of Dr. Stephanie Holmes) and Just the Guys with a group of men on the spectrum, and they talk about Valentine's Day and showing love to their spouses. Just the Guys get together and talk about topics from the spectrum point of view. Today a few tips on what they used to believe about Valentine's Day and how to show love the way their non-autistic spouses want to be loved! Disclaimer: Charity, don't listen to the show until after the 14th! Jeremy reveals his Valentine's Day gift!

Today, Rev. Stephanie C. Holmes interviews Pastor Jamal Baker, a former licensed professional counselor and sex therapist. This podcast is a module from a module that is on sale this month. The usual price is $129. https://courses.christianneurodiversemarriage.com/courses/topics-in-nd-relationships Pastor Jamal Baker is the lead pastor of the Atlanta location of Chapelhill Church. Pastor Jamal was trained in his counseling practice in the specialty of healthy sexuality under the late Dr. Doug Roseneau and the Penners. About the Course, this module interview comes from: Topics in ND Relationships cover Intimacy and Special Interests. To start this module, you want to start with these FREE sermon series: Marriage Basics and Porndemic. As part of this module, Dr. Stephanie Holmes sits down with two ministers to discuss these sermons and bring in the aspect of NeuroDiversity in marriage and some bad marriage theology and doctrine many couples have been taught and believed, which adds to the complexity of ND Christian relationships. Personal stories are shared when special interests involve sex, roles, religion, or pornography and its impact on the relationship.

Today it gets a little personal Hopefully, without being cringy, we will share how we took our physical and sexual intimacy level to the next level. We talk about what kills sexual intimacy and what you need to know to build sexual intimacy. We will define intimacy. We will talk about what builds intimacy and what destroys intimacy. Find out why Stephanie says, "If I can't trust you bringing home the milk, I don't trust you with my private parts!" Tips we give for books to read: Great Sex Rescue by Gregoire Total Intimacy by Doug Rosenau YouTube Channel- Andrew and Amanda Scott Materials by the Penners

Dr. Holmes and Jeanetta talk about uniting resources for families through accessibility to resources! Searchable - unites professionals and parents Access Ability will help you navigate the new autism diagnosis and explain "alphabet soup." Loveable- working through challenges and crisis moments! Her new venture- I want a Buzz TV Exploring the Spectrum. Check out Jeanetta interviewing Dr. Holmes https://iwantabuzz.com/community/explore-the-spectrum-with-stephanie-holmes-from-neurodiverse-christian-couples/ About Jeanetta: Jeanetta Bryant is the Founder and Executive Director of Abilities Workshop, Inc. She is dedicated to helping special needs families find answers and children impacted by a special needs diagnosis be their best. Jeanetta is an author, developer, and advocate. As a mom of two children, one with ASD, she finds no greater joy than watching them develop and achieve their dreams. Her interests include family time at home or at a theme park, college football, and making memories. Website: https://www.abilitiesworkshop.com/ Check out her podcast at https://www.abilitiesworkshop.com/podcast

Many of you have asked for podcasts about aging or retirement and the neurodiverse marriage, so today is one of those days! We have four guests with us. Carol and Greg are newly retired. You may recognize Greg’s voice, who has been on several of our Just the Guys segments. Greg is 63 and retired after a 35-year career as a consulting geologist. Married to Carol, he was diagnosed around age 55. Carol and he have three children. Carol is in her fourth year of retirement after a 32-year career as a speech-language pathologist. We also have Marian and Tom, who have been retired for a few more years, and have some advice for preparing intentionally for retirement (most think only financially) but on how to do retirement relationally and not just individual goals. Marian has a Bachelor’s in Nursing and a Master’s in Special Education. The mother of two wonderful sons and a wonderful daughter-in-law. Tom retired from a successful dental career 2 ½ years ago at age 67 and was identified on the spectrum between the ages of 55-60. Questions to be discussed: - What are gifts for Neurodiverse couples that were found in retirement- things you appreciate or strengths in neurodiversity? - What are the chore load and expectations of chores and responsibilities after retirement? - What are each person's expectations going into retirement- are you focused on individual goals and projects, or are you retiring with relational goals in mind? - What was it like to try to work part-time or consult in retirement? - Advice for couples about to empty nest or retire on the spectrum. Research links mentioned: https://www.opastpublishers.com/open-access-articles/neuro-diverse-christian-couples-autism-religion-marriage-an-exploratory-qualitative-study.pdf https://juniperpublishers.com/gjidd/pdf/GJIDD.MS.ID.555829.pdf Book link:https://amzn.to/46W7LgN YouTube link:https://www.youtube.com/@dr.stephaniec.holmes3536

The guys talk about Theory of Mind

Many of you have asked for podcasts about aging or retirement and the neurodiverse marriage, so today is one of those days! We have four guests with us. Carol and Greg are newly retired. You may recognize Greg’s voice, who has been on several of our Just the Guys segments. Greg is 63 and retired after a 35-year career as a consulting geologist. Married to Carol, he was diagnosed around age 55. Carol and he have three children. Carol is in her fourth year of retirement after a 32-year career as a speech-language pathologist. We also have Marian and Tom, who have been retired for a few more years, and have some advice for preparing intentionally for retirement (most think only financially) but on how to do retirement relationally and not just individual goals. Marian has a Bachelor’s in Nursing and a Master’s in Special Education. The mother of two wonderful sons and a wonderful daughter-in-law. Tom retired from a successful dental career 2 ½ years ago at age 67 and was identified on the spectrum between the ages of 55-60. Questions to be discussed: - What are gifts for Neurodiverse couples that were found in retirement- things you appreciate or strengths in neurodiversity? - What are the chore load and expectations of chores and responsibilities after retirement? - What are each person's expectations going into retirement- are you focused on individual goals and projects, or are you retiring with relational goals in mind? - What was it like to try to work part-time or consult in retirement? - Advice for couples about to empty nest or retire on the spectrum. Research links mentioned: https://www.opastpublishers.com/open-access-articles/neuro-diverse-christian-couples-autism-religion-marriage-an-exploratory-qualitative-study.pdf https://juniperpublishers.com/gjidd/pdf/GJIDD.MS.ID.555829.pdf Book link:https://amzn.to/46W7LgN YouTube link:https://www.youtube.com/@dr.stephaniec.holmes3536

Alix Generous is an autistic behavior analyst with five years of clinical experience and a master’s from Pepperdine University in behavioral psychology. She lives in Los Angeles, CA., where she works as a remote clinical supervisor for families in the southeast region of Washington State. She is the founder of Global Behavior Consultants, LLC, an international behavior analysis company that supports families and individuals to receive affordable care. She also provides consultation with Diversity Crew, which helps large-scale businesses increase the neurodiversity of staff. Over the past decade, she has spoken professionally at conferences all around the world, including multiple TED talks and All About Woman at the Sydney Opera House. Disclaimer: When we have guests on the ASR podcast, they are recognized for their expertise in autism as advocates, self-advocates, clinicians, parents, or other professionals in the field. They may or may not be part of the faith community; having a guest on the broader topic of autism does not reflect complete agreement with the guest, just as many guests may not agree with our faith perspective. Guests are chosen by topic for the chosen podcast discussion and are not necessarily in full agreement with all beliefs of the chosen guest(s).

Dan had read a book for a business leadership class called "Immunity to Change." This is NOT a marriage book. It is a very dry organizational leadership book, but many points are worth discussing. Why, if you want change, there is immunity to it. We will revisit the stages of change. Based on an addiction model for change, so much can apply when couples enter coaching/counseling in different stages of the change cycle. https://sphweb.bumc.bu.edu/otlt/mph-modules/sb/behavioralchangetheories/behavioralchangetheories6.html If you are interested in Dan and Stephanie's book: Find all the ways to purchase the print book, ebook, and audiobook: https://www.holmesasr.com/embracing-the-autism-spectrum

If you have followed us, you know we are fans of LifeModel Works and the work of Dr. Jim Wilder. Key components of LifeModel Works is Immanuel- God is with us, but do we invite Jesus into the marriage? Do we build joy with God and each other? We were also asked to talk about keeping Jesus in the Christ-mas season. We are sharing our Christ-mas traditions and when we felt Immanuel with us in tough times and growing our marriage.